85 Days

[Denver_2010]

Denver, you forgot about option 3, give your W space and LIVE.

Look, I know that you have had hesitations about backing off, because it would feel like the 'same old Denver.'. The one that didn't give your W enough attention to begin with.

BUT, now she is asking for it. Giving her space now isn't same old same old. It's the new Denver. The one who listens and respects what his W says and wants.

This doesn't mean 'wait.'. It means giving her the time she needs, and frankly, given your recent state of mind, the time you desperately need as well.

USE the time.

Work on you. Get yourself happy. Find yourself again. The confident, smart and caring guy we all know you are.

At the same time, your W gets to work on herself.

I told you before, you're lucky, your W TELLS you what she wants. Most of us our out here guessing.

Really man, go back and read your posts from when your W first started to come around. Remember that guy? Find him. He's waiting to be unleashed.

thanks Country. This is what everyone is telling me... has been telling me. My FEAR... that I have to admit... is that the vacuum in my W's life that I create by doing what she needs me to do will be filled by OM...

If I were on the outside looking in, I would say to myself "Denver, you cannot control that IF it happens... and by not giving W what she is asking for, you are actually increasing the odds that OM will fill that vacuum"

BUT... I'm not on the outside. The fear is real and it is consuming. It is what is blocking my path to doing what I KNOW that I need to do. It has been for weeks.

Subconsciously, I think that I am trying to fill as much of my W's time with ME... bc that reduces the amount of time that she COULD be talking to OM or seeing OM... even though I KNOW that this is a ridiculous plan.

Like I said in my update, I am lost right now.

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Denver