Well done Country. The man showed up and handled himself with dignity. Must have been awkward when MIL started talking about divorce but again, you handled yourself like the man we have come to respect on this board.
One question: When your wife hugged you, did it feel genuine?
I ask this because when my w's mom died, her hugs felt empty. Like she wasnt really squeezing , do you know what i mean?
Maybe analyzing a hug during this time isnt the way to go but it stuck with me.
Dont want to detract from anything Country, just saying.
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9, you sure like to make yourself crazy. Having lost a parent, I can bet you that your w's hug felt weak and empty b/c she was in GRIEF and exhausted and it had nothing to do with you...seriously, don't make yourself crazy or plant that in someone else's mind. Grief is grief.
When my father died, my h was an absolute pillar of support and for that I will always be grateful. He took care of all the "stuff" so I didn't have to. We had the kids around but he made sure I wasn't drained by them either, as they were young then.I have no idea how I hugged my h or whatever. But I felt grateful. You were using it as some sort of opportunity and maybe she sensed it, but more likely she was simply tired and sad and had nothing to give you.
No more mind reading, please. It's so NOT helpful plus it enables you to continue on in a lifestyle that doesn't hold anyone accountable for what they actually say, and instead creates drama where perhaps there was none. Just take people at their word for these times. IMO it is NOT about the R/M at all. It's death and dealing with it.It's as if you get a free pass for this time period. There are certainly some unforgivable things that can be done now, but CS won't cross those lines b/c he's smart.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
