[quote=LilaGirl] Maybe stop trying to get him to have sex with you and tell him how much this lack of sex affects you. Tell him that last sentence. Maybe he will wake up and start working with you. I had to be willing to leave my R before my W realized I was serious, and that I can't go on living in a SSM.
I did this. It was kind of a relief. The rejection was too much. And now I just kind of suffer.
I do say it to him. And he never says much.
He just stopped using porn after a long time. I don't know how often he was using it. He said not often but that he did it a long time (over the course of his life).
So I wonder if he still masturbates. Which [censored] b/c I don't really want to rely on masturbation, KWIM? I just want sex with my partner. So sometimes I get bummed that he is masturbating instead of having sex with me.
I don't know how to figure out his drive b/c I feel like I'm not really seeing it truthfully.
But what did your wife do? Just start having sex with you again so you wouldn't leave? How does that work?
