You know the value of the words and advice, enough that you can even say it and give it to others.
A word about safety nets.
They allow youself to fail.
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Is it worth it? What is it all for? Have I gone as far as I can with this?
Sort of the LBS version of: ILYBINILWY
Is it worth it? No not yet, not if you're asking.
What is it all for? ... similar answer to the above. I always saw it as a wakeup call, albeit with a baseball bat, and wrecking ball. Life lessons suckk for a reason; so hopefully you never forget them.
Have I gone as far as I can with this? Personally? Not until you can answer the first 2 questions on your own because they are how you feel.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
idont know blessed what the proper etiquette is for this board. We are all in pain and want to hear from the vets as much as possible , especially the ones that have scaled DB everest if I can use this term.
But I dont like to ask for their opinions as to put them on the spot as I know they are really sought out.
My two cents. I want to hear from them everyday but i just keep posting and am very happy when they take time out of their day to respond to a schmuck like myself.
Im not sure if that helps . JMHO.
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you found me. I'll find your thread if I can, before my flight.
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You know the value of the words and advice, enough that you can even say it and give it to others.
A word about safety nets.
They allow youself to fail.
Quote:
Is it worth it? What is it all for? Have I gone as far as I can with this?
Sort of the LBS version of: ILYBINILWY
Is it worth it? No not yet, not if you're asking.
What is it all for? ... similar answer to the above. I always saw it as a wakeup call, albeit with a baseball bat, and wrecking ball. Life lessons suckk for a reason; so hopefully you never forget them.
Have I gone as far as I can with this? Personally? Not until you can answer the first 2 questions on your own because they are how you feel.
Thanks Jack.
I'm trying to get myself to view EVERYTHING as a test...
My W testing my resolve, my love for her, and my changes...
And life testing me...
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
There is a woman... very attractive... very sweet... who would be my safety net if I fall.
I find my thoughts drifting towards wondering what it would be like to go to dinner with her... have her treat me nicely ... happy to be spending time with me.
Denver,
Vulnerable people make vulnerable relationships...
I am sure you have heard that before...
When my H dropped the 2007 bomb, a man revealed his feelings to me...
I could have jumped at it...
We were close, he lived near my family, he was offering me a brand new start to the life that I had missed, in a place that I missed, near people that I missed for twenty years...
People, place, and a life that I had been removed from against my will and moved halfway across the country...
Where I had, for twenty years, longed to be. I thought...
Until the opportunity was there, staring me in the face.
I have never spoken to that man again. I lost a very good friend...
Because he would have been my "safety net".
It would have been sooooo easy...
and ultra unfair to him and to myself...
Two and a half years later, real love came into my life again. When I wasn't looking...
There it was...
In a place I never would have imagined myself, where I know no one...
And it is everything that I could possibly want...
That wouldn't have happened if I had used that safety net...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
The safety net is a nice place to have some positive thoughts right now though. I don't see anything wrong with having something like that to look forward to - whether you actually end up using it or not. It can keep you sane sometimes.
Thanks for your thoughts you guys. And yes Cat, I have thought about how it would be unfair to that other person. I am not going to do anything rash. Even with the following update...
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
