Rysmom, I lost my job about a year ago and haven't found anything since. It's ok, I just take care of the kids for now. What I did do was join a gym. So I spent my time obsessing at the gym and getting a killer body for 49.
Could you try journaling your text instead? I did the same as you and you know it really did NO good in bringing my h home. It actually makes things worse. Also, I just gave it all to God. When I was feeling down or obsessing about h I just asked God for help. I was not a good DB'er though. It seemed I could not quiet my mouth even though that was a strong message from God.
I would wake up early like that too. Try praying or when h wasn't here I would just get up and go the gym early. Pray for a good nights rest too.
I know this journey is so tough. That is why you just need to forget about your h for now, put your faith and interest in God and go out and have fun regardless of what your h is doing. I did a lot of shopping for myself. Now I didn't always spend a lot, but bought some nice clothes, VS lotions and sprays, Bath and Body Works lotions and sprays. Now I did this for me because it made me feel good. I always dressed up too, but again this was for me and built my confidence. I also spent time at the library, coffee shop etc. Just get out there and live your life, you won't regret it. I find some girl
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"