Who am I now?

[AntoniaB]

IB my first question too was how did you see this letter. This is something you never should have seen because it can't do you one iota of good. Holy cow, it made me sick to my stomach nearly.

It's SO offensive on so many levels. It's a complete snow job trying to "sell" her--was he a used car salesman before and this is the worst piece of junk on the lot? Sorry, trying to make you laugh ;-)

Good, kind, loyal and trustworthy people don't need a whole paragraph of "pros" delivered to someone before the person even meets her. They can stand on their own. Only a person who knows on some level that he did a horrible thing BY YOU would try so desperately to sell the new person to your child, because if he CANNOT sell her to your child, he probably won't repair his relationship with your child. He knows that. This is desperation talking.

I don't know why you have to meet her; is it REALLY necessary? I'd hate for you to be in her presence at all. But frankly you have more dignity and poise in your little finger than she could ever have, and all I can say is that if he continues to reach out to your kids, you're going to have to NOT read anything he writes to them.

It's like you've broken from the contact and he found a way back in, and you cannot let that happen because you are doing SO well otherwise.