Do men generally get turned off by women with high sex drives?
I would say no. If he is also high desire, then you being high desire would turn him on, but him being low desire, he will be indifferent to you either way. He will do it only as he is often as he wants. Because both partners must consent, the person who is less interested controls the frequency. If he is a true low desire person, your drive will have absolutely no effect on his drive, except that the problems and arguments it causes might have an effect.
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Can lack of sex be due to lack of attraction?
I would say that yes it can, but it is not the only possible reason for lack of sex, so you can't automatically jump to that conclusion.
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I stopped initiating. I have to stop talking about it.
But how do you stay in a relationship and not totally feel abandoned by the lack of sex.
I don't know what his normal is. Mine is definitely at least 3x a week.
I feel angry and abandoned and like I'd rather just be with someone who wants me.
Maybe stop trying to get him to have sex with you and tell him how much this lack of sex affects you. Tell him that last sentence. Maybe he will wake up and start working with you. I had to be willing to leave my R before my W realized I was serious, and that I can't go on living in a SSM.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
