Come on...if you want your m to ever have a chance, or if you want to learn how to be a better h for whomever, you have to look inwardly. That's where the real journey is.
I am grateful for your advice... I am trying to work on me. Without trying to sound like an ahole though, I began my changes in 2007... Big and lasting changes in 2009-present. Although I am still making some... I feel I will be doing them for someone else at this point... And that's ok too. We almost never see eachother so changes are mostly unnoticed. I am doing things more for me now... To improve myself for me.