I have to ask this... Why would you want more kids when your wife didn't? I cannot wrap my brain around that. I know some guys want more but when guys wnat more kids than their wives feel comfortable with, they "negotiate" with their wives and promise things like a nanny, or household help OR that the h's will work LESS, so all the work isn't dumped on their wife. You did none of these things. And she asked...
That is why I agreed to work less, because i saw she was struggling. I knew i had to back off of work and focus on home to have 3&4. I have to say from 2007-2010... I was her slave really. When we had the 3rd and 4th, I was home more than her and did more of the parenting. She bagan working 2nd shift in 2007 and is still, which reversed the roles quite a bit. I was and am still currently doing the majority of the childcare... She was at work when they got home from school, during homework, dinner, bedtime, etc. She did have the baby while the others were in school. Her workload was reduced GREATLY... even then she appeared stressed... So I switched days at work to be off when she was off to take her out more... This allbegan in 2007 and continued and her demands got worse until she left. She admitted she only asked for a cleaner and other things in order to push me to the breaking point so I would just leVe her. She suffered yes... I'm sorry for that truly... But what I went through for that 3 years I worked and came home was very hard too. In the end I did all the dishes, cleaning, cooking, making coffee, homework, raising kids, teaching, entertaining, etc. It even got to the point where she dud nothing and still showed signs of stress... I had ZERO energy, but still took days off to just be home so she could go out with friends, outings... WITHOUT ME. I thought I was being a loving husband... I was. The damage was caused by 2007... Even though I did more than she did longer... It was too late. I ended up being treated the way I had treated her. Do I deserve that after my efforts... Years of raising them alone as she did?
