You worked hard to pay off your house VERY early, (losing a deduction that some financial advisors would have advised against losing) and she was not part of that decision. Oh...THEN you decided to be AWOL...when was that?
Oh it was WHEN You had FOUR small children at home!! All of whom are under the age of 7. That's when you chose to work MORE??? Oh, and She wanted TWO children........wth?
This is a recipe for disaster. I'm shocked that you are shocked.
During the time I worked alot of overtime... 2005-2007, we only had 2 babies (1st born in 2004, 2nd in 2005, 3rd in 2007 after I stopped OT, 4th in 2009) Even with the 2... I know it was tough for her. I guess at the time I thought a short sacrifice while the babies were very young and likely not to miss me, was the best time to do it. I know it was a mistake. I stopped working OT just before our 3rd was born and never worked voluntary OT again. I went to work and came home EVERY single day right after my shift. I was there for her as much as humanly possible to raise our kids... During that time she slipped away leaving me to do 75% of everything... I don't blame her... In the end and now I do nearly everything... I am raising them basically alone now. I am grateful fir that opportunity.
Yes... I should not have been shocked. I thought I was providing... Clueless that I was slowly destroying my marriage. I don't know what else to say other than I Fd up.
