Ok... I did read that, my apologies for not responding.
You glossed over a few MAJOR things. You see yourself as the victim here, and I don't, at least not yet. You are sad b/c she wanted out but instead, , you showed her a thing or two and you filed...wow, have you read the DB books? I'm amazed at that choice. What was your goal? Be honest. What was your goal in filing for divorce? I'm guessing it was NOT SAVING YOUR M....
I felt humiliated that she was constantly going out with other men, disregarding my feelings. She had planned to file, it angered me because I felt I was the one who has justification to do so, so I did. I probably should have waited, but it did not look promising at all... Before I bought the book