Thanks Green. The lengths that they go to justify their position is limitless. They will continue to throw me under the bus as many times as needed.
As you say, I have to put this aside and focus on me. I have to remove all reasons that my wife has for not wanting to continue the relationship. I thought I had done that, but clearly I have a lot of work to do re the Controlling perception. Every action I now take is made with prior analysis to make sure that it can not be seen as trying to control her in any form.
This is actually good as I was not seeing any progress and it was because she feels that I am still controlling her. Will see how the next couple of weeks/months go.
