Of Men or of Angels

[Jack_Three_Beans]

She would argue the sky isn't blue because she is on a different f@cking planet right now.

Why argue with her?

You are one of the more patient guys I have ever meet, and not in the wishy-washy way either.

I expect anyone here to call out that the emperor isn't wearing any clothes. I hope they will.

So...

grab a drink.

I debated this for awhile.

I think perhaps you did this with the intent to get angry enough to be done. I can see the need and understand the need to bank to coals to melt steel angry to overcome the patience and compassion.

That boundary in the car, the one you set for her, about the time.

You didn't tell her about it prior too meeting her.
She didn't know it was a boundary.

It was passive aggresive.
To me it was also controlling; here is why I think that.

When she showed up late (50 minutes, yes she suckks with time)

(I don't know what the rest of your day was like, I do not know about plans or work, but I got the feeling you didn't really have anything else planned. So this is supposition on my part)

When she showed up late, you punished her for your unspoken boundary, by not doing lunch and removing yourself.

Controlling is one of her complaints about you.


Truly Grit, I don't care why you did it. I understand the need to get away from them once you have come to that choice.
I do care how and the cost to yourself. You haven't been that guy for a long time, don't let him slip back in.