Thank you very much for your thoughts, prayers, and kind words Augtan.

I think you're right. I sense a lot of repressed but respectful jubilation from some of the people in my lives about this. My parents I think are probably thrilled. And it is true that I'm young, and we have no kids.

But in some respects I will always be haunted by what could have been. Even though the formal marriage didn't last very long, she was a huge part of my life for a decade as a friend and lover. I've been trying to use the time we have been seperated to heal as best I can, and I think in the grand scheme of things I've been doing well. I'm not sure how this is all going to feel in the long run, but I am sure that it doesn't make me happy or excited really. But I don't feel devastated or sad either. It's just something that I've been really anticipating and expecting for a long time. But not something I was willing to innitiate based on the fact that SHE left, and I would do whatever I could to leave reconciliation on the table. Even if ultimately the best thing I could do was patiently wait for 2 years.

The meeting with the attorney went okay I guess. Seems like a nice guy (a friend of my uncle's which is nice) and he waived the retainer fee as a professional courtesy. I just hope defending myself doesn't get too pricey. It really should be a very clean cut case.


Age: 28
Wife's Age: 28
Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off)
Married: Less than one year
Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011