And today's mood is "sad." I decided, I ought to get the ball rolling on property settlement. As much as I would love to delude myself that I could just send him an email with the list of what I want and have him pull up with a truck one day to take his share of the loot, I already know that he'll want to argue about it.
It may also make more sense for him to leave some of the stuff he would have to haul away and just give him the money I would otherwise have to spend on replacing those things. I need to know what he wants before I can offer to do that, though. Last time H and I did the property settlement, our arguments were more along the lines of "no, you take it." It's a good kind of argument to have in a property settlement, though I did end up with some stuff I really didn't want. I don't think he'll make it as easy on me this time.
Anyway, I've got too much going on today to sit waiting for a caustic email response, so I think I'll wait until I get back from sailing class tonight and send him an email. Is it mean for a WA to send the LB a settlement email in the middle of the night or is there just never a good time?
I'm afraid I'll get depressed and not pay attention in my class or that H will say something to discourage me from going to the class if I talk to him before then. I guess that's exactly why I never told him I was taking the class, even though I enrolled over a month ago. I think it's a sure sign that there are trust issues, when one feels the need to keep self-improvement a secret from one's spouse. --z
