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[MHL]

I had a heck of a time trying to both answer it and skirt how I felt.

That is exactly what you have to do!!!!

Well put my good man!!!

You will get better at it as TIME goes on.

I told her that we are doing well right now and that we will TOGETHER. I kept trying to explain to her that she isn't alone and that we are doing this as a family - even if it's messed up.

Bravo!!!

I keep waiting for a day when I don't have to be the better person, or actually, when I can complete a NORMAL day without dealing with any of this.

AHHHHHHH, Time to get deep here.......

This up ^^^^^^^ here, this is what you are working towards....

However, I am going to change some of your words......

see if you like this better......

I keep waitingcan't wait for the day when I don't have to be theam a better person, or actuallyAND, when I can complete a NORMAL day without dealingand can deal with any of this.

Here is the cleaner version......

I can't wait for the day when I am a better person AND I can complete a Normal day and can deal with any of this.

I left the strike throughs up there because that is the mental blocks you need to laser cut right out of your head.

Things like

keep waiting........... don't wait....start doing!!!

don't have to be........... sorry to break the news to you....you HAVE to be a BETTER person everyday.....for the rest of your life. (here is the good news....when you ARE a better person..... you do not have to try.....you just ARE!!!)

Someone put that in Latin !!!! hahahah

without dealing.............. if you don't have to deal with this shat you will have to deal with something else.....right???

Your journey, your growth, the things you will learn about you will make your LIFE better.

If your LIFE is better then the things and people in your LIFE will be better........including your marriage.

This is the concept that is hard to grasp here.......Fix you first then everything else typically falls into to place.

But I'm resigning myself to the fact that I HAVE to be strong for her and am doing it.

man, this is so friggin tough...it makes me so mad at my W for doing this to us...

Yes you do have to be STRONG.....STRONG indeed.

Mad is okay and Mad is normal........just don't let it consume you......process it...get it out.....move forward.

Happy Little Friday!!!!!

Have a beer on me Bolt!

Cheers