Assuming again. If she said to you, I am filing for D and I am going to have a good way to talk to you about things with the kids, then I would say yes it is about the D, but she hasn't said that. Now it might happen, but it might not. She may actually be looking for a place to vent in a productive way. Maybe she is looking for someone to tell her this can still work. Maybe she is looking for someone who can help her understand her feelings.
I will say good for her in that she hasn't rushed into doing anything. All of this is positive for you. She may not want to talk yet, but her not going completely the other way is good as well.
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Thanks awest, seems like emotions are all over the place. It has been one week today since this all came to light and just feeling overwhelmed. I am trying to stay positive even emailed her to wish her luck on the interview. I got no response but part of me did not expect one either.
You've got to let her process all of her emotions and it might take a while. This will all take great patience on your part to just stay and endure.
At some later point you'll want to look at true apologies and forgiveness. You'll also want to analyze your behaviors from your W's point of view and stop doing anything that comes across as untrustworthy.
Yes, I have been working on the patience...sometimes that requires medication, yesterday I think I fixed every bicycle in the neighborhood to just keep my mind busy. I have been working on making sure I am not texting or emailing when is around. If I have to I let her know who I am texting and emailing. Of course she then looks at me like my head is on fire. But I hope it shows that I am looking to open and honest.
