Thank you. I do realize that I am in an endless loop. I am going to seek some outside help and do appreciate your words of wisedom.
Best, A.
Might want to start here:
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Plus we ML this a.m. (I was not the initiator).
At least maybe you'd get your self-respect back. A well-timed "I'm no longer comfortable with this, considering what you're doing. I'm your wife, not your booty call" might slap him at least partially back into reality.
Really, Abbey, you're worth so much more than this. Your husband won't begin respecting you until YOU do.
Starsky
Starsky, this is the most personal of decisions, and she has a DB coach. You've made your point, a lot. I don't happen to agree with you but since she has a DB coach AND a past involving this very issue, I figure this is something I don't need to comment upon. But since you do, often, I will say that Abbey knows about DBing and has resources and we are not able to judge what goes on in the dark between any two people. My guess, and it is just a guess, is that their ML going well, is one of the reasons her h is not sure what he wants. He is not acting like a man who KNOWS he wants a divorce. Abbey, that's not to say you should put up with this or for how long. I understand the nightmare this is for you and you have outdone most people on here in terms of handling things over time. But don't be bullied into doing, or not doing, what feels right to you. You said your DB coach is helpful and clarifying. Trust her.
(( Hugs ))
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