Sorry you got that email. It's good that you have a year timeline in your state. And that you want your L to keep it slow. So, don't let this change your plan. In my state (California) a third of the divorces filed are never completed.
Keep all the ugly business stuff with the lawyers and let them hash it out. OF course in time you and your w will realize that it's cheaper to work things out between yourselves and hopefully build enough rapport that she starts to doubt the wisdom of her choice.
So stay on track and don't let this throw you. But YES YOU MUST STOP the outing stuff. Not to say I told you so, but dang, this was predictable. I Still read some posters here who love to punish the cheaters and advise others to do it with gusto. I always ask them what their LONG TERM Goal is...and they get quiet.
So, back to your plan and the 180's. NOW is an opportunity for you to behave in the "NEW YOU" way. And getting in your daddy time. Good luck -hang in there.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
