Take CountrySong's advice and discuss the other debts. BUT quibbling about any of the costs of your son is beneath you. Don't measure out meals and diapers and such or you'll look very small. Besides, the person who has the child the most ends up paying for things the other parent never thinks of, like increased utilities and a bigger apartment and gas for trips to the store and blah blah blah. Don't even go there. Besides, you were unemployed for some time and if she wanted to get nit picky she could go down that road and you don't want that. Plus I don't know who earns more and how long she was unemployed, if at all.
Being a good provider may sound out of date with today's feminism. But it does still matter to women, especially when children are involved. I think it's almost biological and I liken it to caveman days.
When the male goes out to hunt, we stay behind with the baby and hope he brings home meat. We also want to be safe in the cave and if there are holes in the wall, we want them fixed. When the hunter comes home he wants the child (whom he presumes is his) to be cared for and for both of them to be welcoming. When the man comes back without meat or food he gathered, they go hungry and he has "lost" for the day. When he brings the meat home, there is shared pride. Similarly the child growing well and being happy is the mother's main pride and yet it is shared too. A sick child eats at her. At a deep primal level, I think there is some truth to this.
So let this guide you in how you handle your w. Don't be a doormat but don't quibble or sweat the small stuff. She's watching you. Be fair and calmly resolve this.
The better you two work this out, the more hope there is that you can work things out maritally. But as for your son, I would not be measuring out things for him. Cover him. He's yours.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
