Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

[AJM80]

Makes sense - someday I hope you get to that point where you can talk more openly. Even now, with H being more normal most of the time, I am still seeing glimpses of TOTAL fog/avoidance of reality too.

I would like to hear the opinions of your other readers on my sticking up for yourself/politely telling her to ease up on bashing you. I was kind of a doormat, so sticking up for myself was an important thing for me in this process. (by the same token, I tried to treat H with the same respect I requested)

Try to build in some positive fun time, ok? The whole point of DB'ing is not for you to get the sh-t kicked out of you by your wife whenever she feels like it. And it isn't for you to make amends for everything that ever happened in your lives together. I think you're doing some good things, based on what you and your wife and therapist are all saying. I'm just saying there have to be good times to show there can be future good times. And you sound stressed and a little down, understandably so.

You're going to be tired out watching son alone all weekend and working full time, so hopefully her comment that she won't work every weekend will stick. Do you have family in the area who could take care of him sometimes and give you guys a break financially? If this were a nasty divorce situation, she'd have to pay for childcare (or 50/50) if she was working.