That said, there is nothing wrong with you disagreeing with her. If you are always agreeing, she may see you as weak. Disagreeing is ok as long as you can do so without fighting over who is more right. Something along the lines of "I see it this way, which is at odds with how you see it, however, that doesn't mean I don't hear you or regard your opinion incorrect. I just see if from a different perspective" type of thing. You still have to validate her, but you don't have to agree with her. Just don't let her use it as a tool to get at you. She may use the resulting issue to rejustify the validity of her affair.
This is what I need major practice in. I am going to start looking for material on good commincation and validation strategy. I think it would make a huge difference in my ability to comminicate with her.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
