Country, being such a newbie to DB techniques, I'm always hesitant to comment on a situation, lest I give bad advice. But I honestly see reasons for you to have some measured optimism. In fact, I wish I was in your shoes with my partner as you are with your W. Don't lose faith is all I wanted to say.
Me: 35 Him: 43 Together: 19 1/2 years 1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011 2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011 He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011 He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011