Thanks so much you guys. I just went to alanon and started to feel a bit stronger. But then I got home and my H text me: "I apologize for my shortcomings, everything happens for a reason, I hope you are NOT beating yourself up over this".
I just said - "I am doing ok, thanks".
Why is he showing concern for me, is he just temperature checking, he is the one that ran away again - shouldnt he be the one beating himself up over this?
I have learned in alanon not to beat myself up. I asked my H to come home instead of going to bars everynight, and he just couldnt. It was not my fault that he is an alcoholic, I cant fix him or change him, and I did not cause it. I know that now. I tried to set boundaries, that he just couldnt handle.
Why is it that he is so concerned and being nice. My mom said, he was probably just drunk, and i agree with her (just assuming). TIPPER
