Yeah, Tad, I know how you feel brother. It comes and goes, but you have to work on making it go. Don't get stuck there ok? You'll find later that spending that time being angry while necessary is not a good use of your time. Can be unproductive if it goes too long.
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Post to me June 20 Happy Father's Day! Thanks for being such a great father to our children! We are blessed to have you in our lives.
Yeah Tad. I got similar in the form of a Valentines day card. I got statements such as "you deserve better than me" etc. Right before she left the second time? She got me drunk and tried to tell me she would fund me if I wanted to start a business after she graduated. Neat huh?
They know what they are doing isn't right. They are looking for that next high and want to blame you for their issues.
What's the alternative Tad? To admit they are broken and crazy vs. "if I just get rid of this or just get this, then I'll be happy" ? After a while, anyone would break down and go for the latter. Kind of like a sick person that self medicates, no? Lots of similarities. But make no mistake - she makes her own decisions. It's her choice to blame you. It's her choice to leave. And so on....
It's your choice to focus on you and to stay away from her. She will NOT change until she has a reason to do so. Some call that hitting bottom.
Mine even went so far as to get meds for depression. I suspect she is off them now. The lunatic email I got not long ago would seem to point in that direction.
But outside of trying to understand her and what's going on, it really doesn't matter. If I broke my leg, don't I still have a responsibility to feed and take care of myself? In much the same way, she has a responsibility to her family to not do what she is doing. She CHOSE to do so. She CHOSE to blame you vs. anyone else even if she doesn't realize that.
Now. What are you choosing to do for you my friend?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
