In our discussion, we discovered the alcoholic analogy fits here, where an alcoholic must hit bottom before they will do anything about it and SMIL feels W is about to hit bottom. I did say there can be no effort at piecing until after that happens and W figures out how to take ownership of much of this, as I am trying to do now.
I have not heard of this analogy, but I like it. You have to let her make her choices and crash. It makes all the sense in the world. As protectors, we want to be there and pick them up after each little fall. It sounds like you have come to grips that she is on her own. That takes balls.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
