Hos, I just caught up on your entire thread today. I see a lot of similarities in my sitch. My W has been hell bent on D since she bombed me. She just moved out this past weekend. But she just invited me to dinner tonight. We've even started some of the paperwork for D. Some positive signs I've seen since DB'ing are at least she's slowed down her pace on the D (although she'll express frustration that it's been so long and the D process has only gone so far)
It always possible she will start down this road to D and see what it's all about and turn back. I think you're in the position right now to do your absolute best to get her to want to turn back. Perhaps once she heads down this road so far she won't ever want to go down it again. You likely have more time than you feel like you have right now. It ain't over until YOU say it's over.
Like the others said, GAL like gangbusters right now. It's going to make you feel a lot better. It's very liberating. You won't feel like a victim. And - you may appear more attractive to her. Just make the changes for YOU, though. That's the only way they'll be permanent.
