Antonia, that's pretty amazing. Sounds pretty similar to my sitch.
Two weeks before she told me she wanted out she adopted two kittens and made plans to have new sprinklers installed.
Two weeks after W told me that she wanted to leave she planted flowers, started a garden and was making plans to get the house painted.
I've noticed that she really has a problem following through with things as well. (Something she always accused me of.)
Some examples:
My S18 had a concert on February 19th that she videotaped. She told him that she would send it to him the followiing Monday. He is still waiting on it. He's asked her about it several times.
S18's prom was a few weeks ago. She took pictures of him before he left and once again she told him that she would send the pictures the following Monday. He still doesn't have them. She swears that she sent them via email.
She was supposed to get a part time tutoring job. She missed out because she didn't follow through with the paperwork.
When she moved out, she told me that she would have homes for her dogs by the end of January. It is now May and they are still at my house.
She was always dependable. Not so much anymore....
Do you really think the MLCer is so miserable though? If W is really unhappy and hurting, she should be in Hollywood earning Academy Awards because she hides it so well.
Tad
Currently: M 57 XW 58 Sons 39,34,32,30
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
