Your post about the planet of fulfillment vs. the planet of desperation really resonates with me! I realize that I have been living on the planet of desperation basically my whole life - even before my partner left me. (Perhaps it is because I grew up in a very insecure home and scarcity of all resources - emotional and material - was a huge part of my childhood.)

I carried this desperate sense of shortage and incompleteness into adulthood; my happiness and sense of self and even my purpose for living centered around my partner who 'rescued' me from the desperation of my life as a child. Now that I am not living with him, it hurts to live at all. I feel empty and lost. It would be amazing if I can grow to the point that I am living on the planet of fulfillment - knowing that I have enough love, happiness, and joy just for myself within myself.

Thank you for providing such a concrete image of what it means to truly GAL of ones own!


Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011