Oh and incidentally it is a beautiful patio and I had it cleansed/blessed by a spiritual friend and put a greenwoman sculpture on the wall next to it to ward of negative energy. See I was calling it the "sorry, honey, I'm having an affair" patio and I needed to stop that and just call it "MY patio" (ha ha ;-)
The first time my XH left, a few days before, he attempted to begin a MAJOR reconstruction of our bathroom floor. I actually stopped him saying that he didn't have time to get into this before going back to school in the fall. Then 3 days later, he left me. Later he said that had I not stopped him and let him do his project he might have stuck around. I'm thinking he'd have gotten the floor up, seen the damage which I've since paid 3k to repair, and he STILL would have left--in fact probably would have felt MORE compelled to leave.
It's only so sudden because when they are falling apart they hide it so well for so long.
DO NOT start asking yourself "well how long did she hide it for then?" That is a worthless exercise in self-punishment. It's irrelevant. The only thing relevant is you getting through your day and getting stronger and more independent.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
