The fact of the matter is that in today society our kids are inundated with "sexual innuendo" everywhere they turn.
Lets face it...
At 11 years old I would suspect that most kids can put 2 X 2 together when they see Mom's friend cooking breakfast the next morning.
You do not have to answer her questions with anything otherthan "you just don't know."
It is difficult when a Man/Husband/Father forsakes his children and blantanly flaunts what he is doing right in front them.
However
It is quite another situation when a Mother will treat her children as some of the MLC women treat their children here.
We are appalled as a society....when a Mother will do that.
For me it is very much a testimony to the existence and severity of Mid Life Crisis.
Your wife has a "mental problem", it is real and I do not mean that as a derogatory coment about your W nor mine (and mine has done some effed up shat for sure).
Grace has said this many times before to me and others and it is so true......
It is not your responsibility to maintain the relationship with your children and your MLCer, however it is your responsibility not to damage it.
I beleive you are trying not to damage it but you have to watch everything you say and how you act around your D11.
The best thing you can do is show her that you are not going to let the actions and words of someone else affect you.....
even if you love that person very much and they are causing you great pain.......this is the example you need to set for her.
I know you may be financially strapped but if there is anyway for you to get your D11 in counseling that needs to be of the upmost priority!!!!
You will hear so many people say, "She is their Mother, and your daughter has to have a relationship with her".
I will disagree with that statement because right now being exposed to your W is harmful to your D.
however
It is not your call as to when that may change.
A therapist will be able to help your D11 deal with reconnecting or not reconnecting with your W.
It really is up to your D11.
Be her ROCK!!!!
Let that DRIVE you and motivate YOU.
I will tell you that when I turned my Life around and I stopped wallowing in my self pity.......my daughter noticed.
and when she saw that I was happy.....
she was happy.
Show her what real MEN are made of.........
It takes a real Man to face what we are facing and rise above.
You can do it.
I will get better.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
