Well I guess she's back to be a jerk again... Remember her family asked me to go to their family picnic and bring the kids because W WOULD NOT be going? W even told me she would not need the kids longer that day because she couldn't make the pucnic. Well she must have found out about me going. She sent me an email today, here is how the email interaction went:
W: Btw... Were you going to my family picnic? I would prefer you not to go.
Me: I was asked to go, I will be going. Absolutely nothing to do with you... I'm going for the kids sake. What I do is none of your business. We have 4 kids together, stop being such a jerk.
W: Then I won't be attending, have fun at my family function.
Me: I don't care what you do.
W: I left you for a reason, stay away from me and my family.
W: The kids are already going with me, so how are you going for the kids sake?
Well first off who knows why she left... Even she doesn't know the reason... It has changed countless times and hyped up beyond belief to make herself looked like a victim. And if she planned on bringing the kids, which she already said she wouldn't be... She'd only be able to stay for an hour before she had to leave for work.
I did not respond back, but I have to vent... It pisses me off! Here I am a father stepping up caring for my kids alone with minor help from W... I pay her child support as I have previously explained to keep kiss outa battle and safe, I have worked my azz off for years so she can walk from us with about $125,000... Money I worked for... I was faithful throughout our marriage... A great father... Caring husband... Didn't do Didley wrong just minor common mistakes... And SHE TREATS ME LIKE THAT?! WTF?! ok had to get that out... Now I know W... She doesn't want me around her family, because they may find out the truth that will unravel her PACK of lies... I know some will have questions... I do hope not, because I'd rather not discuss W, but they will. She wants me away even when she's not there... ESPECIALLY when she's not there... To protect her story... Her fictional version of events that even she believes now.
IMO you gave her a reason to blame you here. It should have stopped at 'for the kids sake' in your first statement.
Try to think about what will bring you closer to your goal. Is calling her a jerk and saying its none of her business do that?
I'd suggest still going for the kids, been there in that sitch too. Try though not to talk to family members about the sitch tho, never know how it can be used against you later. Dou you want to be right or happy?
H:41 W:44 D1:19 D2:17 S:13 D3:7 T:20 M:18 Bomb:1/5/11 Sep:2/18/11 No D filed yet; just threats
I agree... I don't plan to discuss the situation... Just tell others I'd rather not because I'm going to enjoy the company of people I like and respect. I probably could have left those parts out... But I felt like showing some backbone too... A fine line I guess... I need some work... Spoke outa frustration a bit I guess
Well just saw the new photo of W and new boyfriend... They look pretty happy and ganging out in a bar while I raise our children. Heartbreaking to look at someone you spent 1/3 of your life with and totally not know them. The fact that she would post that is just so disrespectful... Purposely hurtful
So W apparently posted that after finding out I was going to the picnic. Then she sent me 3 emails:
#1 I'm still going to the picnic and bringing the kids, so there is no reason for you to attend. I don't want any drama.
#2 I think your gonna be uncomfortable when you realize I'm brining someone.
#3 If you want to come, you could come after 1:30pm and we can trade the kids there and I'll just leave to go to work ok? So that way the kids can stay longer, if you don't wan't to do it that way then I can just leave there at 1:00pm to drop them off at your house. Let me know when you can. I just don't want any drama and I have no problem with you.
This time I'll await for suggestions on an appropriate response. I was thinking of something like, I'm well aware you are with someone. My children are more important to me than the possibility of any pain that may cause. As I've told you, my attending has nothing to do with you or us, it's about our kids. I will meet you at 1:30 if that makes you feel more comfortable.
You asked me to post on your thread But you never responded to my LONG reply to your prior thread....just saying...
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Originally Posted By: Blessed2BeADad
Well I guess she's back to be a jerk again... Remember her family asked me to go to their family picnic and bring the kids because W WOULD NOT be going? W even told me she would not need the kids longer that day because she couldn't make the pucnic. Well she must have found out about me going. She sent me an email today, here is how the email interaction went:
W: Btw... Were you going to my family picnic? I would prefer you not to go.
Me: I was asked to go, I will be going. Absolutely nothing to do with you... I'm going for the kids sake. What I do is none of your business. We have 4 kids together, stop being such a jerk.
SSo here, YOU escalated first and called her a jerk. Oh.
W: Then I won't be attending, have fun at my family function.
Me: I don't care what you do.
W: I left you for a reason, stay away from me and my family.
W: The kids are already going with me, so how are you going for the kids sake? IIf this is HER talking, she has a point. But it doesn't make sense to me. Who is going, you AND OR her?
Well first off who knows why she left... Even she doesn't know the reason... BS. She may not articulate her reasons well or you don't hear her. But anyone with any insight into the m you two had, would be able to see at least some of the reasons. For the life of me, you seem to have zero insight into your role in any of this. Wow...did you not find my other reply to you? It's still there.
It has changed countless times and hyped up beyond belief to make herself looked like a victim. And if she planned on bringing the kids, which she already said she wouldn't be... She'd only be able to stay for an hour before she had to leave for work.
I did not respond back, but I have to vent... It pisses me off! Here I am a father stepping up caring for my kids alone with minor help from W I'm sorry but do you have amnesia? SHE cared for 4 kids, all under the age of 7 while you worked EXTRA b/c you thought paying the house off was more important than helping her out AND you made that choice without her input AND she only wanted 2 kids, remember? Oh, and she asked for help from you, or maybe a nanny or housecleaner and YOU said NO and did not help her at all b/c you were busy with your solo financial decisions. Well....you have a selective memory. Why did you want ME to post to you? You are into your anger and victimhood and I'm into people changing their behavior to restore their marriages. You both never let go of the "A's" you each had and you did it again right after she gave birth, at her most vulnerable. But you both do the tit for tat thing, and your behavior is not the kind that is conducive to restoring your m. I mean, you are mad and so, you react that way. You filed. Do you honestly want to be m to her again? If so, how on earth are YOU showing her that? All I see is punitive measure "teaching her a lesson or two" which is NOT a spouses's job, that's life's job. So, what would make her think you'd behave any differently in a marriage today, when you continute to portray yourself as a great husband who should not have had this problem? What 180s are you doing in your interactions with her?
... I pay her child support as I have previously explained to keep kiss outa battle and safe, I have worked my azz off for years so she can walk from us with about $125,000... Money I worked for... I was faithful throughout our marriage... A great father... Caring husband...
Another amnesia attack...why did you want ME to post to you? B/C at some level you know you have amnesia? OMG you think YOU WORKED HARD?? WHAT WAS SHE DOING AT HOME WITH THE 4 LITTLE KIDS, EATING BON BONS??? You were barely faithful, you were not a caring husband and for God's sake stop revising your marriage or you'll get nowhere. Your w was NOT insane to want a better life for herself. THE more you make yourself out to be a victim, the less likely you are to change and therefore, the divorce will be a done deal and you will have learned nothing...all that pain for naught. How tragic.
Didn't do Didley wrong just minor common mistakes... And SHE TREATS ME LIKE THAT?! WTF?! ok had to get that out... Now I know W... She doesn't want me around her family, because they may find out the truth that will unravel her PACK of lies... I know some will have questions... I do hope not, because I'd rather not discuss W, but they will. She wants me away even when she's not there... ESPECIALLY when she's not there... To protect her story... Her fictional version of events that even she believes now.
Well, the fictional accounts clearly go both ways. I found your thread and replied. I have just one question for you. What is your goal now?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Well just saw the new photo of W and new boyfriend... They look pretty happy and ganging out in a bar while I raise our children. Heartbreaking to look at someone you spent 1/3 of your life with and totally not know them. The fact that she would post that is just so disrespectful... Purposely hurtful
It's not about you so it's not "purposefully hurtful". Why are you looking on those pages anyhow? Oh, to wallow? Come on...if you want your m to ever have a chance, or if you want to learn how to be a better h for whomever, you have to look inwardly. That's where the real journey is.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
25yearsmlc... THANKS for stopping by... I read alot of your stuff and was hoping to get your advice on my situation. I have not looked her stuff in months... My sister mentioned the photo and well... I looked... I should've know better.
did you read the post I wrote to you about May 4th or so? It's long.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
