She's getting to cake-eat here, but having it all organized helps me find little ways to maximize my time with them.
But...it's your cake! So even if she eats it, you designed it to be the best, IYO, for your kids. If it is the best for your kids, it is often the best for us in the long run.
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The tough thing about having separated parents is it means they are always together and they get tired of each other.
I thought so, too. My STBXW was getting punched and kicked by my eldest daughter who still feels her mother 'ruins her life'. So, in court, we split Thursday by kids rather than full custody - I get the eldest, the other 4 are with mom, and the next week we switch. Sounded like a better plan on paper... It is hard to treat them fairly like that. You only have two kids, so it might work with your sitch.
As a teacher, we try to tell kids that they need to know their emotion to control it. I wonder if your girls need help expressing their emotions in non-aggressive ways. Just getting the words out and knowing the other understood (even if disagreed) can feel validating. On occasion I see my kids fight and when I take a step back from it, I notice they fight like my STBXW and I did. I've always wished my kids were immune, but they picked up on subtilties well.
