Starsky (and others): I really don't think that being 100% dark right now or applying LRT is the right thing - now. First of all, I am incapable of doing it genuinely. It just won't feel real to her. I even call her today just to talk and it went ok.
So....is it possible for me to get back somewhere close to where we were a year ago at this time? Spending some time with each other with no direction? Just having fun and living in the moment, the way STBX does. While doing that, make sure I never initiate R talk, so she feels no pressure and never discuss the future or the past? Can this work?
Isn't that letting her ear cake? Letting her have best of both worlds and not having to decide? The only reason I think it may be a good idea, is that what worked after we first separated. She slowly came back to me and then when I pushed too hard, she ran the other way. This time, I simply don't push too hard.
I am still riding this crazy rollercoaster and my mind changes every day. I need to come up with one plan and stick to it for some time, so that STBX sees consistent actions from me and begins to respect me again and find me confident and attractive and start to think that I just could be the man to give her what she needs.
I feel like I am in limbo land and can't stick to one plan fully. Am I just being wishy washy again?
I just can't seem to do the right thing at the right time and I am running out of time!
