Thank you both. I do see how it is important to try and gauge our S's behavior, if not, hard to we "know what works."
It is just also hard, feel like I had gotten her out of my mind a lot of the time, and now she is back in full force.
Just read the obituary for FIL. It was really well written. When mentioning his family, all the married people had (spouse) between their first and last names. No mention of me…
God it hurt…
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
