Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

My IC just said again yesterday that my H and I have to start talking about the R. She suggested (since I don't want to be the one bringing up R) to say that my therapist says we need to meet twice a week for two hours to discuss issues or just spend that time together to determine if we want a M or a D. So that we are both on the same page in the grieving process and no one is surprised. Maybe twice a week is too much (seems it to me) but even once a week without kids around. Maybe call it a 'meeting to discuss a going forward plan"? I dunno what term I'll use yet either but that one comes to mind.

H brought over dinner last night and the dog but only stayed for an hour. Light conversation but as me and D2 notice, its all about him or the dog. Doesn't even ask the kids whats going on. I am a bit concerned that my IC is right and I am just not seeing this personality disorder until now. He leaves and hour later texts saying thanks for letting him over and sorry he couldnt stay longer. He said he wanted to get some sleep since he has to get D1 at college tomorrow and its an 8 hour ride. Funny, talked to D2 at 11pm and she was just texting with him cause he was planning a soccer tournament for June. Now I don't know what to think again. Is he just keeping distance? Is he done?

Waiting takes a serious toll on me some days.