Well, I guess my post did get submitted. Sorry for the double posts and test message.
I wanted to share last nights conversation, which did not go well. I need to work on refraining from these conversations, says my sis.
"I emailed my wife yesterday to tell her about a support group I wanted to attend and let her know. Well, we talked last night, and she was asking about it (moreso I think because she thought it was to work on the marriage), which turned into a big conversation. Long story short, she threw the “she’s been working on us for 10 yrs, I did nothing” which only pissed me off inside, as I can only hear that so many times. I said she frustrates me as she is continually dwelling on the past, and never looks forward for us, never sees what I have done, and there is no crack in her armor, to even give it a try. I asked her what about the good weekends, does that create any different thoughts in her head? And she says she gets to Monday and she is upset – because she did let her guard down a bit and she regrets it. She says complacency is easy (meaning staying.
I still tell myself patience, patience, patience, but every conversation I hear that, and up til now been pretty good listening, but my frustration came out, that it seems her stance has not changed in 6+ months.
