greenblue90, somehow I missed your reply here; sorry. You make some great observations, especially about her staying only because the alternatives are bleak. A day or 2 after the bomb, she said she would stay only because it was "right" and not because she wanted to.
Unfortunately the OM is back in the picture again (as I mention in one of my recent posts). And as I mentioned, I no longer feel the numbing pain I felt when I first learned of her EA with him. What I do feel is the need to set my boundaries regarding this - that I will not be married to someone who is in love with someone else. It feels like she is testing my limits to see if I have any self-respect left.
To be absolutely honest (with you and myself) at this moment I could not care less if she decided to move out and move on.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
