Ok so you had a backslide or put your foot in your mouth. What is DB anyways? What does it mean to you? For me it is the tool and support that help me work through my grief and sadness. It is a way of life and a tool belt you have to better handle situations in ALL aspects of your life.
I think overall you had a very good exchange with your W and you ended it on a positive note. I remember more about the last 15 min of a conversation when I hang up than I do the first 2 hours. If you end on positive note then you have done well. \
Loving your W does not require her to love you back, let me explain. You would like for her to love you back, certainly it is unnatural to love someone who is not showing it to you but to show love through kindness even when it is not being shown to you is a real testament of love.
Be decent, be kind, be gentle because you are. Do not allow your emotions to dictate your actions. I think overall you did a good job just remember there is no timetable and your role is to keep it light and fun because that is who are trying very hard to become.
I have told you before 9, I see a lot of good and positive in your sitch even if you don’t. Your W is very conflicted and anytime you offer kindness as oppose to anger you feed the confusion.
