It's been awhile but I want to give a quick update and see if anybody has suggestions.
Last direct contact I had with my W was on Facebook chat and it didn't go well. I asked for the animals, house, tv, and stuff but she refused. I told her I'd just really like the animals back and she said they weren't hers anymore to give back and even if they were hers she wouldn't give them back. She ended the chat with the declaration that if I attempted to contact her again she would consider it harassment and I could go through her lawyer. Well, I have dealt only with her lawyer since.
I tried writing letters to her lawyer requesting what I wanted and saying I'd sign the papers if they agreed to my terms. Lawyer reviewed with my W and they rejected a bunch of stuff. I'm meeting with an attorney tomorrow about all of this.
I've seen on Facebook that she is in a relationship with a guy, has gotten her maiden name back, has covered up tattoos involving me, has lied about the animals in a way because she knows who has the cats and she registered the dogs in her moms name but she has them, and posts about how I am an abuser. I've gotten myself to a point where I'm at least not going to commit suicide or be depressed all the time since it looks pretty certain she's not coming back to me. Through all of this though, there is still a tiny little bit of me that hopes she'll come back. That maybe once she has to face me with the lawyers and sees that I've made some real changes she'll reconsider. I struggle everyday not to be angry, depressed, or in a "revenge" kind of mindset. I remember from the book that now I would give anything to speak to her but if she comes back I'll have to face the hurtful and angry feelings.
I haven't been pining away day and night for her. I'm going on about my business. I've made some friends and spent some time with them when I can. I've tried getting a life and moving on. Part of me wants it to just be over, to get divorced and say goodbye. I intend to show no sadness, no anger, no vengeance or cruelty when I face my W again, I plan to kill with kindness and that's more for my own good, my own well-being, and my conciseness then anything else.
My question: does anybody see any chance of me getting my W back?
Thanks for all the help and support I've gotten here. I'm going to try and get back here more often and even if I get divorced I'll be back to see if I can help others avoid that fate.
