K,

One way to face the fear is to get custody time set in stone.

Yes, she may be softening NOW, but there will be times when you and your W may not be getting along and she will be tempted to punish you by withholding the kids.

It has happened with me. My W's word is no longer trustworthy. Nothing about them is any longer.

Just my 2 cents.

Best of luck to you Kaffe. God bless.