Hi Tulsa. I won't rationalize my wait on the kids custody. I will restate as I said above, the whole situation with the kids is based on fear. I'm working hard and as fast as possible to get rid of that fear. Fear that W will make the kids too "busy" to be with me.
Believe me, I do NOT want to be civil with her about the kids. My fear is ruling me about this, right now. And I absolutely understand your comments regarding precedence, etc.
The courts may see things a certain way right now, regarding my participation in the kids lives. This is absolutely going to mediation. We're simply waiting for the first meeting which is still a while away.
In the mean time, while I don't entirely trust her regarding the schedule, W HAS been softening regarding her willingness to provide access to me. And she has proven it by action (more access to the kids) over the past couple months. It's not big, but it's positive steps.
The kids DO understand that I want to see them as often as possible. The time I do spend with them is quality and that has been fed back to my wife by them. She has indicated and acknowledged that. Each step forward has been to the positive for me and the kids. I have gained ground so far, not lost ground. We're still at 70/30 and while I'm concerned about a back slide, negotiations between the two of us for this summer could see a slight increase again in my favour.
The harm is done already. I'm only working on making it better, slowly and surely. Baby steps. And THAT will look good in the eyes of the court if it comes to that.
