Veltis, it really does seem counterintuitive at first, but it's the way to go. I think you did just fine with that convo.
If you've read my threads, you probably know how bad I was at pursuing my W again and again when we were talking. If I could've muzzled myself two months ago, I think my sitch would be very different right now. So that would be my second piece of advice after being patient: don't bring up the R talk!
By the way, have you thought about getting a phone session with a DB coach? Laurie has definitely helped keep me focused on what I really need to do.
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11
