First contact from W since sunday.. it was through FB which i left open while getting ready for bed and she sent a message. I havent received the DR books yet but based off of advice from the post i read i tried to remain positive, up beat and as friendly as possible. Here's how it played out:
W: hi, I was going to call you tonight but it ust wasn't a good night for me Had a rough night sorry
Me: That's ok, i had company.. everything ok now?
W: just a bit of stress is getting to me
Me: sorry to hear that... anything in particular?
W: money just need to do a bit of recalculating I want to cncel some stuff
Me: i understand what you mean.. did the drop in the mortgage payments take effect yet? When they do that should help
W: I just dropped it alittle bit...but we will see the difference
Me: good.. that should help you a lot
W: let's hope so
Me: I've had a few busy days and am going to hit the hay. Try to have a good sleep, that should help.. Hoping Matt pulls through tomorrow in survivor.. good night
W: Me too, goodnight
That was the end and i logged off. I tried to be supportive, to somewhat validate and to end the convo first, kind of detach. What i copied was word for word from the chat we had.
This was the first time i was kind of brief and ended the convo first.. i guess my first 180 as i would normally try and keep the convo going and be there for her.
Was what i did and say the right approach at this time, is there anything i could have done better, like try to get her to talk more? I hope she doesn't think i don't care by ending the conversation short. I'm a little worried as this is a new approach.
