"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Now I just have to be careful of what I say....new mod and all
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
And I don't mean the toilet bowl cleaner product although I wish I had some to spray in her mouth after the dirty things she called me.
Is it open season for migratory cuckoos who have left their clocks?
It went horribly. I spoke with her before I left Orlando to drive to Tampa to make sure she was still on for it. I get there at 12 which is when we were supposed to meet and she calls me to tell me she’s running late. How late? 30 mins.
She apologizes. I knew it was going to happen. On the way over I said to myself if she is late I am drawing a boundary. She is ALWAYS late to everything and I consider it disrespectful.
So she is now 50 mins late and I finally call her she says “I’m parking." I said where because I will meet you to get my diploma I can’t stay for lunch.
And then WWThree.
"What? F@ck you! I'm leaving you're not getting this diploma! You think I drove here to bring this to you and to be talked to like that?"
Here are some of the highlights:
You haven't changed! You are an angry person! I hope you find someone who will put up with your sh!t I don't let anyone speak to me like that! You are a scorpion! (I'm not I'm a capricorn)
Me:"I am sorry you feel that way."
I got my diploma as she gave me a good dressing down in the parking lot of PF Changs.
Oooh that brought back some old memories…public display of dysfunction.
We had another hour on the phone after that.I did do soem defending and it was the old chicken or the egg. She wasn't in crisis I made her do it. She said I reacted by setting boundaries and control mher. I said how can I cantrol your choices when I am out of town and you decide to go to a bar at 5 a.m. and then get arrested? How am I supposed to feel about that?
"You didn't stick by me then. Being married is for good times and for bad and you abandoned me."
"Good times and bad huh? And having relationship with other men is sticking by your vows?"
"I only did that because I had no choice. You had emotionally left our M."
"why was that do you think?"
So we chased our tails for a while like it always goes...and Socrates was rolling over in his grave.
She just doesn’t see her part in all this. Still thinks I’m the a$$hole. I abandoned her. I am to blame for her seeking out emotional affair with OM. Doesn’t think that an emotional affair IS an affair. I caused everything.
She is just Nucking Futs right now.
She looks like hell.
And the clincher…..”I love you but I am not in love with you anymore. I have no passion for our M.”
Brilliant! This is the second time she has said this to me recently. I never heard it before.
The last thing she said:
"truce. You can call me whenever you want."
Really? Thanks.
I'd rather have spike shoved up my a$$.
I am not as angry as all this sounds. I rather expected it.
Could I have blown off the fact she was disrespecting my time?
Yup.
It ain't about making concessions anymore IMO. If she showed me a little sign of contrition and a willingness to be respectful...
I think it could have gone differently today. But this is my M. This is all it is and there ain't no more. I am married to Varuca Salt from Willy Wonka...
"what do you get when you marry a
BRAT?"
I am not interested in this relationship anymore.
It is over for me.
I cannot allow this to affect my life any longer.
Maybe I am an a$$hole...if I am, I am a very sore one right now.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
I may be wrong here, but I feel jealous. My XH wouldn't have an argument that lasted that long. 3 hateful words and he's outtahere. Could we perhaps fix our X/STBX up? She could verbally batter him, running behind him hysterically, while he ran away, angrily shouting brief hate msgs. back over his shoulder. THAT'S ENTERTAINMENT!
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