85 Days

[Jack_Three_Beans]

In Nov 05 My wife, 'needed time alone.'
She slept with the OM in the hotel she stayed at.
I had Thanksgiving dinner alone with my boys.

In Dec 05 she was staying at a friends house. The evening of the school play with our boys, we sat and talked and I thought everything was great. She just needed time. Later that evening her mother drove past the OM's house and saw her there called her out and guilted her into coming home.
Oh we had a fight that night.

Early January I found a similar note in her Jeep. We fought again, I wanted her : ) to have her space, she stayed with her friend again. Talked to her every now and then.

I thought we were doing better. I remember talking to her about our future together on a walk-way bridge over a creek.

End of May 06 She went on a vacation, to California and then to Colorado, I knew the OM was going to be there with her for a week. I figured this would be the last goodbye thing. When I discovered I was mistaken, I removed all her things from the apartment and put them into storage.

We fought on the phone.

Late April 06 She came home we started talking nicely again, I helped her find an apartment. Later we talked about me moving in with her. We talked about her ending it with OM and working on being married. Set a date of June 15th.

On June 16th 06I see his car outside her place. I confront them both. They were interuppted apparently 'good-bye' sex. : ) uh-huh.

I let her know exactly how I felt.
"Bills or Boys"

Sept 16th 06 She called and litterally begged for another chance.
I told her I needed to think about it.
I did and told her that if she was serious then she would be waiting for me on my porch when I got home from work on Friday and if not, have a good life.
She was there decided to make a go of it. Piecing, right? I let her end it with OM her way as long as her way involves very specific boundaries I have established.

Oct 31st 06, she decides we should be friends, I say OK. Ask her if she would rather I do not show up at the club she is bar-backing for, she says no would like that. Turns out she didn't like me dancing with a cute pirate chick. I say ummm we are friends right? BIG FIGHT.

Ups and downs and normal?

Normal for me Denver.

That poem you found?

Never underestimate the power of a hurt puppy. Never think this guy is going to be honorable, never think you're going to 'show' her he is a scumbag.

And now the good news, the silver lining.

It didn't end with:

"Roses are red, Violets are Blue;
I'm so happy I get the rest of my life with you!"

It ended with her ending it with him.


Oh yeah that lovey dovey stuff? [censored] when you see someone else sending it to you wife.