We have the kind of relationship where it feels like we could easily pick up where we left off before the marriage went south, and that's why it feels like a natural step at this point...
Whoa! Careful here ... do you really want to pick up where it left off BEFORE it went south? As good as it felt to you before it all went sour, there was something fundamentally wrong in order for it to derail.
dmk, I am all for cautious optimism, I'm still a romantic at heart, even after all of my experiences in the last year and a half. Take it sloooooooow ... and when you think you're going slow enough, slow down a little more.
Some of the best advice I ever got was to make a list. A list of the qualities your partner should have to compliment you. A faceless, nameless list. Dream big dmk, there are no limits here
List attributes, contributions, skills etc ... once you know what your parner "looks" like you can hold that up against any potential mate ... your exH or otherwise. Know you and your needs first ... that should help you make your decision. You need to be strong enough to walk away from something that's not good for you even if it feels good (nickle MHL) but you also need to be strong enough to own your feelings and trust yourself to love again when the time is right.
Good luck! Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
