Hoswald Just caught up on your sitch. I know I advocated the use of facebook earlier, but how some people have already mentioned. Stop stalking her FB!! Pursuing behaviors are equally ugly whether online, in person, or the phone. That being said I still stand by my earlier statements of FB being a good PR tool for you. Keep posting, your fun stuff, and no posting bad stuff. Does your class do recitals? Great picture op..... Think of your Facebook page as your propaganda platform, not your spying network.
I know it is tempting to see what she is saying, but hey she is in full WAW, she most likely doesn't mean 97% of what she posts. Something I learned the hard way is that women need to vent, they need to just work through the emotions and cycle them. They may say things, only to work the emotion, it does NOT mean that is how they are feeling or what they want. At the risk of sounding cliched and a tight bit sexist, they need to "feel" their choice is the right one, and in order to come to the right decision they need to feel all the emotions that come across with all the possible choices. Her facebook vents may just be her trying to run through all the emotions as she tries to understand what feels is right. Women are usually truer to their feelings because they will cycle through all of them, until they find the one that is appropriate.
We guys are logical people, we don't want to feel the pain of the emotion to decide if it is right. Instead we will just pick what we feel is "logical". The downside is that sometimes we ignore our own true feelings, and those of our partner. (A common complaint here BTW).
I heard this makes us good short term decision makers, while women are good long term decision makers.
All right so now that the tangent is over what does this mean:
"Don't take too seriously anything she says, and only 50% of what she does!"
This applies to facebook too.
Keep GALing pal
As for your comment about how your spouse fits you like a glove. I hear ya I feel the same way. It's hard to think of finding someone with all the qualities you love about your spouse. Keep this in mind, the same applies to her.
I truly believe that DBing is all about reminding them about all those qualities they will find themselves hard pressed to find in ONE person, while at the same time getting rid of, or improving on those qualities they don't like. Right now the bad qualities outweigh your good ones in her mind, prove her wrong!
