Well, the next MORNING, my D was right because the OM was there cooking breakfast. She talked to my W and told her she can't trust her anymore...
You know what that little MLCer did? Told her 11 year old to grow up - and that she wasn't going to talk to her when she was being irrational...
Bolt, I know your pain well, I want to caution you as you move forward.
Your D11 is watching you......
She is looking for guidance from you.
this is going to be tough...
My D14 is still going through the pain of being apart from her mother and my XW is still very much in the throws of MLC.
You will be tempted to confide your feelings to your D11 because she shares your pain.
Please resist.
Children see things very black and white, when your D11 says she's done with your W....she means it.
YOU WILL VACILATE.......Trust me.....I did.
One day you will Love your W the next hate her.
this will be confusing to your D11, it was to mine at the time I was still standing and I know for a fact it played a part in some of my XW's choices at the time.
Also, when you start to swing back and forth between those feelings of love/hate for your W it will cause a problem between you and your D11.
Be there to support your D11 but understand that she will look to you to confirm her feelings, if you do by comiserating with her about your W then it could cause all kinds of problems later.
If you have the means, get your daughter into counseling ASAP!!!!
I will try to post more tonight, I would tell you to go back and read my thread but I think that I did more wrong than right. If you do listen to what the others were saying to me.
You will get through this.....I promise.
It will get better.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
