Affair

[islander]

I would suggest that when you call the counselor to make the appointment, that you actually ask to speak to the counselor on the phone, or have him/her call you back. Write a list of questions down that you Want to ask, like:

What are your views on marriage

Are you pro marriage

Do you thinknif one spouse wants a D that a M can be saved.

Ask about infidelity

Ask how many years of experience they have.

If they know how many M they have saved ( take it with a grain of salt)

Do they view D as a last resort/what do they think about D.
These questions and many more will help you choose a C.

If you just pick one and make an appt, you don't know what you are going to get. From personal experience, I just chose a counselor. After the session, the counselor told my W and I we needed to separate, and in 6 weeksif things weren't better and my W hasn't mad a decision we should get a D. This is a true story, and it made my sitch much worse. Be picky, this is your life, your M, nobody elses.